How did I get Here

The process for me started with the first significant change in my life. At the age of 16, I became the mother of my first daughter. I was still in high school at the time and had no idea what to do. There was a thought of terminating the pregnancy, but that thought passes quickly. The situation was not ideal, you can imagine. The young man and I were not dating, but we know each other because his mother and my mother were best friends, so we spent a lot of time at his house. I believe my life was over since I was a mother at the age of 16. My self-esteem was very low, and I think that no one would be interested in me since I had a baby.

One day, I received a call from my cousin, the second significant change, stating that someone wanted to speak to me. This person was a childhood friend. My cousin reminded me that we all played together when little kids. I informed him of my daughter, and he did not run, hang up or call me names, hooray. I thought I had hit the lottery. He accepted my daughter as his own, which I thought would not ever happen.

We decided to get married when I graduated from high school. One reason was we thought were in love, and second, I did not want anyone to tell me how to raise my daughter. Therefore, marriage was the best decision. We added two more daughters to our family. The marriage ended after seven years.

The third transition, a single parent of 3 girls, homeless, and working a part-time job. The homelessness did not last for a long time. My aunt allowed me and the girls t to live with her; we lived with her for six months. I found a house and a fulltime job at a department store, which I later managed. Also, during this time, I added another daughter. I remained in the phase until the next transition came five years later.

Transition four. I was a CSR, customer service representative at a leading car rental agency. I was working at the airport greeting customer that was driven to the location to rent their vehicles. One of my responsibilities was to give the bus driver the name of the VIP customers. He will drive them directly to their cars. However, this Wednesday, I decided to go back to the rental counter earlier than usual. One I entered the building, heard a voice say that “it is your fault that I did not get the VIP service.” I am now confused because I know that I had given the bus driver all the names on my list. I did not argue with the customer, apologized, and offer to get this car for him. He declined and asked if I would help him with directions to the Bed and Bath where he was staying. I assisted him with no problem. He also said that he has the tendency to get lost in new cities and likes to call me if he gets lost. I said he needs to get lost before 3 pm because I would not be available after that. He said that he happens at around 5 pm. He asked if he can call me if it happens. I gave him my number (which never happens). He did call and invite me to dinner, but I declined because I had to go to church that evening. We did eventually go to dinner, and we have been together ever since, almost.

I later moved to Chicago in 2000, the fifth transition. While in Chicago, I earned my bachelor’s degree and managed a Subway Restaurant, which became one of the top Subways in Chicagoland at the same time. After I left Subway, I was a Supervisor at a hospital. In 2009, I moved to Waxahachie by way of New Orleans.

In 2009 I moved to Waxahachie with my younger daughter, the sixth transition. I worked for one on the upscale retail store in Dallas for two years. In 2010 Larry and I (from Chicago) decided to get married four days after his arrival. During my time here in Texas, I have worked for several businesses. I started working on my MBA at the University of Phoenix, but I did not complete it at that time. However, I did not give up; I went back to school and earned my MBA-HRM 2017.

After graduation, I wanted to become a motivational speaker, then,

realized that my experiences could help others reach their full potential.